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Introduction Open your bedside drawer. Pull out the oldest sex toy you own. Do you know what it’s made of? If you bought it at a gas station, a sex shop that doesn’t specialize in body-safe products, or an Amazon listing under $15, the honest answer is: probably not. And the company that sold it […]
Introduction I did long distance for two years. San Francisco to New York. Three time zones. Approximately one visit every three months, each one feeling like a compressed vacation where we tried to pack six months of intimacy into four days. Here’s what nobody tells you about long-distance sex: the challenge isn’t frequency. It’s spontaneity. […]
Introduction In my sex education class — a single afternoon in eighth grade — we learned about fallopian tubes, the menstrual cycle, and exactly enough about STIs to be terrified of sex for the next five years. We did not learn about pleasure. We did not learn about the clitoris in any detail beyond its […]
Introduction The first vibrator I ever bought came from a pharmacy. I’d walked past the “personal massager” section six times in the previous month, circling it like a nervous shark. When I finally grabbed one — a cheap, battery-powered bullet in a plastic clamshell — I paid in cash, refused the receipt, and walked out […]
Introduction I used to have a drawer. Inside that drawer were three vibrators, a bottle of lube, a tangle of charging cables, and a bullet vibrator I hadn’t seen in six months. Every time I opened it, the lube bottle was on its side, the cables had wrapped themselves around a wand like vines, and […]
Introduction I was standing at Pudong International Airport security, and a screening officer had just pulled my vibrator out of my carry-on. He held it up. He turned it over. He asked his colleague, loud enough for the entire line to hear: “What is this?” The entire line turned to look. I turned the color […]
If you’re looking at your first (or second) vibrator, you’ve probably narrowed it down to these two: the bullet and the G-spot vibrator. They’re the most commonly recommended beginner toys. They’re both small. They’re both relatively affordable. And they’re both great at what they do — provided what they do is what you actually want. […]
You’ve seen both everywhere. The rose — that deceptively innocent-looking silicone flower that went viral on TikTok for, well, obvious reasons. And the wand — the classic, unmistakable workhorse that’s been a bedside-table staple for decades. Both are good. Both will get the job done. But they do it in completely different ways, and one […]
Let’s Get Real: You Need to Clean It. Here’s How. If you use a vibrator, you need to clean it. Not “when you get around to it.” Not “I’ll just rinse it off and it’ll be fine.” Thoroughly, correctly, every single time. (New to sex toys? Start with our Complete Beginner’s Guide first, then come back here.) […]
Last updated: May 2026 You’ve been thinking about it for a while. Maybe a friend mentioned hers. Maybe you saw something online. Or maybe you just woke up one day and thought, “Why not?” But then you open Google, and suddenly there are a thousand options. Bullets, wands, rabbits, roses… and a lot of words […]
