FAQ – Frequently Asked Questions About Sex Toys

Common Questions About Sex Toys — Answered

Whether you’re brand new to sex toys or just want to understand them better, you’ve got questions — and they deserve real answers. This is the place. Browse by topic or read straight through. If you don’t find what you’re looking for, contact us and we’ll add it.

🛒 Buying & Choosing

What’s the best sex toy for a beginner?

It depends on what feels good to you, but for most people starting out, we recommend a bullet vibrator or a small wand massager. Both are:

• Compact and easy to hold
• Offer adjustable intensity
• Work well for external clitoral stimulation
• Affordable enough to explore without major commitment

If you’re not sure where to start, our Complete Sex Toys Guide for Beginners walks through every major type in detail.

How do I choose the right vibrator for my body?

Three things to consider before you buy:

1. Stim type: Do you prefer external (clitoral), internal (G-spot), or dual stimulation? Your answer narrows the field fast.
2. Size and shape: If you’ve never used an insertable toy, start with something slim (under 1.25″ diameter) and flexible or tapered.
3. Material: Always choose body-safe silicone over jelly, rubber, or PVC. Non-porous silicone is hygienic, non-toxic, and lasts for years.

Our How to Choose Your First Vibrator guide covers this in depth.

Are sex toys safe to use?

Yes — when you choose body-safe materials and use them as directed. Here’s what to avoid:

• Jelly rubber toys: Soft and cheap, but porous and often made with phthalates (toxic plasticizers). Skip these.
• Non-medical silicone: If a toy smells strongly of chemical plastic, it’s not body-safe silicone. Test it by poking it with a matchstick — real silicone won’t melt.
• Numbing agents: Any toy marketed with “numbing” or “desensitizing” ingredients is a red flag. You want to feel what you’re doing.
• High-porosity materials: TPR, TPE, and jelly all trap bacteria and can’t be fully sanitized.

AmorSerere products are made from medical-grade silicone and body-safe ABS. Every material we use is tested to international safety standards.

🔬 Materials & Safety

What’s the difference between silicone and TPE?

Silicone (specifically, medical or body-grade silicone) is the gold standard for sex toys:

• Non-porous — bacteria can’t hide inside it
• Hypoallergenic and latex-free
• Can be boiled, dishwashed (top rack), or bleached to fully sanitize
• Lasts for years without degrading

TPE (Thermoplastic Elastomer) is softer and cheaper, but:

• Semi-porous — can’t be fully sanitized
• More prone to degrading, cracking, and harboring mold over time
• Often contains plasticizers that can leach out

For toys you’ll use internally or share between partners, silicone is the only responsible choice. For external-only use, TPE can work — just know its limitations and replace it more frequently.

Our Vibrator Materials Explained: Silicone vs TPE vs ABS article goes much deeper on this.

Can I use silicone-based lube with silicone toys?

In most cases, yes — but test first. High-quality platinum-cure silicone toys and premium silicone lubricants typically play well together. The old “they’ll fuse” warning mostly applies to cheap, unknown-brand silicone toys.

If you’re uncertain or using a toy you’re not 100% sure about, use water-based lubricant instead. It’s always compatible, always safe.

Rule of thumb: If you’re not sure, water-based is the safer choice.

What does “body-safe” actually mean?

“Body-safe” means the material has been tested and confirmed safe for prolonged contact with mucous membranes and sensitive skin. It doesn’t contain:

• Phthalates (plasticizers linked to hormonal disruption)
• Latex allergens (unless you’re buying latex, which is separate)
• BPA or other endocrine disruptors
• Carcinogenic colorants or additives

At AmorSerere, every product is made from materials that meet FDA food-grade or equivalent medical-grade standards. We don’t sell anything we wouldn’t use ourselves.

🧼 Cleaning & Storage

How do I clean my sex toy?

For silicone, ABS, and glass toys (non-motor):

Best: Boil for 3–5 minutes, or wash with fragrance-free soap and warm water, then let air-dry.

Good: Spray with a toy cleaner (alcohol-free, pH-neutral formula), wipe, air-dry.

Never: Put in dishwasher (unless the toy is fully waterproof with no battery compartment — check the label).

For vibrating toys with batteries or rechargeable motors: Wash with warm water and mild soap, avoiding the charging port. Dry completely before storing.

For TPE and jelly toys: Wash with warm water and toy cleaner only. Do not boil — the material will melt. Replace more frequently.

Complete guide: How to Clean Your Vibrator: Complete Care Guide

How should I store my sex toys?

• Keep each toy in its own pouch or container — not tossed together. Silicone toys can react with each other if stored in contact.
• Store in a cool, dry, dark place. Heat and UV light degrade silicone over time.
• Keep batteries out of battery-powered toys if you won’t use them for a while — batteries leak, and leakage destroys electronics.
• For rechargeable toys: charge every 3–6 months even if not in use, to prevent deep-discharge damage to the battery.

How often should I replace my sex toy?

It depends on the material:

• Medical silicone: 2–5+ years if cared for properly
• TPE / TPR: 1–2 years maximum — the material degrades regardless of care
• Jelly / rubber: 6–12 months — replace as soon as you notice any cracking, stickiness, or odor

If a toy has a strong “new plastic” smell that doesn’t fade, that’s a sign of low-quality materials. The smell indicates off-gassing, which means you’re absorbing something with every use.

💑 Using with a Partner

How do I bring up using a sex toy with my partner?

This is one of the most common questions we get — and the fact that you’re thinking about it means you care about the relationship. That’s the right starting point.

Our guide: “Will He Think I’m Weird?” – How to Bring Up Toys With Your Partner covers this with specific language you can use tonight.

Short version: Frame it as something for both of you, not as a replacement. “I read about this thing that could feel really good for us” is much better than “I want to use this toy instead of you.”

Can I share my vibrator with a partner?

Yes — with one condition: use a condom on the toy when sharing. Toys that have been inside one person’s body carry their vaginal or anal flora. Using a condom between partners prevents bacterial transfer (like E. coli from the anal area to the vaginal area — which causes infections).

Wash thoroughly between uses if not using a condom.

💰 Pricing & Shipping

Do you ship discreetly?

Yes, always. Every order ships in a plain brown box or a plain poly mailer with no company name, no logos, and no indication of what’s inside. The label says “AmorSerere” only — no reference to adult products.

Credit card statements will show “AmorSerere” — not the product name.

For international orders, the customs declaration will list a generic product category, never explicit language.

What’s your return policy?

Because of the nature of our products, we cannot accept returns on opened or used items for hygiene reasons. If your product arrives damaged or defective, contact us within 30 days and we’ll send a replacement — no questions asked.

Unopened items may be returned within 14 days of delivery for a full refund, minus return shipping.

How long does shipping take?

• US domestic: 5–10 business days (Standard), 2–4 business days (Express)
• Canada: 10–18 business days
• UK / EU: 10–20 business days
• Other international: 15–30 business days

All orders include tracking. Express options available at checkout.

Didn’t find your answer?

We’re happy to help. Send us your question through our Contact page and we’ll respond within 1 business day — or check our Blog for in-depth articles on all of these topics.